man as a sex object and sex slave. And in protest against all of this giv- ing up the glamorous, high heeled shoe, the wasp waist, sweater girl look, the extreme makeup and hairdo looks, etc. in favor of pants- suits, leather, heavier more practical shoes and clothing etc. So who wears a dress anymore? The FP is getting into a brand new kind of minority and an obsolescent one at that. 3) The slowly opening up of equal opportunities for females and males in businesses that were pre- viously limited to one or the other. We now have female jockeys & truck drivers and male telephone operators, secretaries etc. Boys and men are wearing long hair and necklaces, girls and women pants and boots. What happens to the FP who finds himself espousing a form and ex- pression of femininity in clothing that is rapidly becoming passe for the GGs? What about other aspects of old time femininity — the more passive, accepting, dependent, gentle, graceful little "lady" whom the strong, gallant, courteous, dependable, aggressive, decisive man writes. songs about and hopefully marries? She is learning to stand on her own feet, get her own education, earn her own living, develop her own skills, make her own decisions, call her own shots, have sex with whomever and whenever and however she decides to have it, and generally learn- ing to exert and project her own personhood. And while she is so en- gaged he is finding that he need not "prove" his masculinity as con- tinuously and forcefully as before, in fact may be resented if he does, that he can't dominate women as he was led to believe that he could and should, that being tender, gentle and human are not necessarily in- compatible with being a man, that pretty colors and varied material patterns, cuts and styles of clothing are more expressive and joyful than the conservative Ivy League brown and black worsteds that he used to wear. And in fact is gradually learning that to "make it" with women he has to tailor himself to their requirements instead of men defining women and forcing them to conform to that definition. So what hap- pens to those other forms of "femininity" (other than clothing that is) that we FPs have long envied and sought to possess and express when they are evaporating out of our culture? The clinging vine, the cottage small and the heroine that the hero will "climb the highest mountain" for have gone with Jeanette MacDonald and Nelson Eddy.

So whats the upshot of all this? Simply that we as FPs are in a time where that which has oppressed us is being removed (homosexual taboos) that which has attracted us — ultra femininity of dress, hair and makeup is going out of style, that which we found so relaxing in con- trast to our socially demanded masculinity—becoming a "woman" on occasion thru the medium of her clothing-is ceasing to exist both because "sheness" is rising from its submissive, accepting, more or less passive condition, and “heness" is falling from its dominant, red-blood-

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